Jennifer Lopez said she told herself to “figure yourself out” while navigating the aftermath of her divorce from Ben Affleck [1].

The comments provide a rare look at the personal toll of a high-profile split and the process of identity reconstruction after a public marriage ends.

Lopez said her experience during an appearance on the “SmartLess” podcast episode released June 15, 2024 [3]. She said the period following the split was a necessary time for personal healing and self-growth [5]. The actress said she took responsibility for her choices and realized she had to work on herself after the separation [6].

Lopez and Affleck married in 2022 [5]. The couple later filed for divorce in April 2024 [1], and the legal process was finalized in January 2025 [2]. During the podcast, Lopez said that she is a very different person now than she was in the past.

“The person I am today is so different than the person I was even two years ago, it's crazy,” Lopez said [7].

She said her internal dialogue during the transition was a blunt reality check. “You need to f---ing figure yourself out,” Lopez said [8].

At the time of the interview, Lopez was 56 years old [4]. She said that the process of introspection was essential to her current state of mind and overall well-being.

““You need to f---ing figure yourself out.””

The public admission of a need for self-correction following a divorce reflects a broader trend of celebrity transparency regarding mental health and personal accountability. By framing the end of her marriage as a catalyst for individual growth rather than a shared failure, Lopez shifts the narrative from the logistics of a celebrity breakup to the psychological process of recovery.